Like a computer, our mind processes all the information we input. Our beliefs and expectations are built up by the thoughts and suggestions we regularly give ourselves. So too with children. Our child's mind is incredibly active with thousands of thoughts each day. Affirmations - short simple statements that we repeat to ourselves either internally or out loud - can effectively direct those thoughts towards a particular purpose.
For very young children, parents and caregivers can speak affirmations directly to their children, helping to both build their vocabulary and empower them. Young children love to hear positive statements about their worth and abilities, especially spoken aloud by people whom they love and respect. As children grow and their language develops, they will learn to use affirmations themselves to direct their minds towards picturing desirable outcomes.
For example, if your child is worried about an upcoming test, you could teach her to repeat to herself, "I'm going to do really well I'm going to do really well... I'm going to do really well." By reciting this positive statement over and over again for several minutes, the mind, like a horse being led to water, is led to consider "doing well." The mind shifts from the worry, to confidence (or whatever the affirmation is suggesting). Affirmations also affect actions. As a result of the positive stimulus her mind is feeding her, she may even study an extra half hour before going to bed. Most importantly, she'll start thinking about "doing well," and expecting the best in her performance.
When children feel depressed, worried, or fearful, as everyone occasionally does, it is usually because of the thoughts they're thinking. Negative thoughts like, "Nobody likes me," or "I'm going to fail the exam," almost always come to children as auditory messages, as opposed to a mental picture. It's like a little annoying voice inside them saying, "You're going to fail," or "Nobody likes you." We can help our children overcome their doubts and fears by also using the power of words. The key is to show them how they can change the negative words inside their heads into positive verbal suggestions. That's exactly what affirmations do.
The recent Harry Potter phenomenon has done wonders to reintroduce the element of magic into modern children's literature. It's actually no surprise that Ms. Rowling's readership has spanned all generations. Humanity has always been in awe of supernatural powers. Magical incantations such as "abracadabra" have been used throughout the ages in hundreds of mythical tales by magicians and sorcerers who, with that one word, could cause astonishing miracles to take place. Children have always been fascinated by the magic power of words. Affirmations can have the same miraculous effect on how children feel and perceive their world. What makes mind power so extraordinary is that when children use affirmations, they are accessing the magical power of their own minds.
An easy way to describe to your child the power of affirmations is to compare the mind to a tape recorder. It's always on, recording all of our thoughts. Whatever thought we think, whether it's happy or sad, positive or negative, it is recorded. For example, when we find ourselves in a situation that reminds us of a past negative experience, our mind plays back one of the old thought tapes. While we can't change the unpleasant experiences that have already taken place in our lives, we can change how we react to similar situations. By encouraging the mind to picture positive expectations through the use of affirmations, we eventually record over the negative thought tapes with new positive thoughts. Your child will be thrilled to know that she has the power to change her own thoughts simply with words, and you can encourage her to try it in numerous situations.
The affirmation technique gives your child a simple but powerful tool they can use for a lifetime. With practice, they will develop the mental habit of using affirmations in a whole range of different situations, resulting in positive attitudes, hope and confidence.
I have lots of friends.
I am a good friend to myself.
I play well with others.
I'm a good sport.
I am helpful.
I am a loving person.
I'm a good listener.
I ask good questions.
I'm full of good ideas.
My imagination is fabulous.
I have a wonderful mind.
I am very creative.
I can do anything
I set my mind to.
I am confident - I CAN DO IT!
I believe in myself.
I can .... run fast, read well, etc.
I'm really good at ... riding my bike, making friends, math, etc.
Every problem has an answer.
I'm always in the right place at the right time.
I FEEL HAPPY !!
I always make good choices.
Good things happen to me all the time.
I can be whatever I want to be.
I'M GOOD AT BEING ME!
People feel happy when they see me.
I love my life and have lots of fun.
I DO MY BEST ALL THE TIME.
I am unique and special.
am healthy and strong.
in great shape.
body is my best friend .
day in every way, I am getting better and better.
I feel calm and relaxed. (when child is upset)
For more tips read the chapter on Affirmations in the book ...
Mind Power for Children